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Have a problem, question or concern about love, dating or relationships? We all have our trials and tribulations with love, I'm here to help you out and make the world of dating and relationships a little less confusing and problematic. Just ask me a question here on B93Radio.com and it might appear in Courtney's E-Love Corner!

Courtney's answers will be updated every week between Friday and Monday. Courtney gets a lot of questions so if you don't see your answer right away check back the following week!

NOTE: The spelling and grammar of questions sent to Courtney have not been corrected, they are printed verbatim as Courtney receives them.


Dear Courtney,

My boyfriend and I have been off and on for the past 5 years. We have nothing in common so it's hard to find something to do except bowling. He is an outdoorsman and can't stand being outside in the cold. We hardly see each other so when I see him I want every moment to count. Is there something you can suggest that we could do together that's inexpensive and would be fun for the both of us?

A. 20 WI


Dear A.

Instead of beating your head against the wall to maintain a superficial relationship, try examining why you want to be with someone who has no interest in doing the things that YOU want to do. Also, look at why the both of you aren't interested in sharing aspects of your partner's life because you "don't like it." Honey, you've got bigger problems than trying to find a mutually fun activity.

Your E-Love Advisor,

Courtney

Dear Courtney,

My sister has been dating this boy for the past 8 years and they've been engaged for the past 4 months, but they recently broke up and now my sister is extremely depressed. I hate seeing her like this and I was wondering what I could do to make her feel better.

J. 17 WI


Dear J.

It is very considerate of you to want to help your sister out of this jam.

I find it interesting that they dated for such a long time (8 years), but then when it came time for the commitment of marriage, the relationship blew up. There is a temporary feel to dating and so there is always an out.
However, there is permanence to engagement that some people simply cannot handle because of other deep issues that usually have nothing to do with the partner. Your sister may be experiencing this.

If it isn't too late, I would suggest couples counseling for them. If that isn't going to happen, then certainly some private counseling with a professional therapist to get past the depression and uncover the deeper feelings of loss, remorse and regret.


Your E-Love Advisor

Courtney

Dear Courtney,

My girlfriend and I broke up about a year ago. She now is a lesbein. Is that a sign?

M. 15 WI



Dear M.

Exploring one's sexuality is quite common and a normal part of development.
Your ex-girlfriend's revelation about her own sexuality is not a reflection of your own sexuality or your abilities as a heterosexual male partner.

Your E-Love Advisor,

Courtney